Nine Fantastic Autumn Fashion Trends That Will Make You Look Forward To The Cold

Although Summer is all but over, we are actually starting to get a little excited about the next season. The reason? We have nine good reasons in the form of Autumn fashion trends that have got us quite excited. Here are our picks of the best trends for the upcoming coming cooler months that we think will make you look forward to the cold too. 

#1 Millennial Purple AKA Lavender

While last season was all about millennial pink, this season lavender is the hue of choice. We love this gorgeous orchid shade which can be used in head to toe monochromatic outfits, to make a statement with a key piece or to add interest by way of accessories. It is bold and beautiful alone or paired with black, white, navy or brown. 

#2 The Cape

The cape makes a comeback in the Autumn fashion trends. These strong shaped outerwear pieces are a fabulous alternative to the trench coat or denim jacket. They look strong, stylish and great. And, dare we say, heroic! 

#3 Satin Blouses

It must be the romantic in us that just goes weak at the knees for a beautifully shaped satin blouse. Paired with a slim-fitting skirt, these shirts are anything but average. While off-white shades are the most obvious hue to wear, Versace showed of satin in neon hues with contrasting lace trims for those of us who like our fashion with a little more edge. 

#4 Super long coats

Longline wool coats that almost skim the floor are the way to make an entrance this Autumn. The style is structured heavy wool coats that fit perfectly and go all the way down to your ankles. Suddenly all our coats feel a little too short and lacking the drama of these statement makers. We all want to go out and immediately buy something much bigger, longer and in a more striking colour like blue, yellow or teal. 

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#5 Argyle Knits

Yes, these are the original old man’s golf sweater, but this season they are anything but old fashioned. In fact, they are looking very cool with a cute skirt or fitted pants. The classic diamond pattern showed up in navy and black combinations as well as the traditional forest green and cream. These cosy old fashioned knits are perfect for keeping warm and stylish as the temperature drops. 

#6 Butter Yellow

Yellows of all shades are popping up all over the place in Autumn fashion trends, but our favourite is the buttery yellow hue. Worn in a monochromatic outfit it looks amazing in suiting, evening wear or in one of the aforementioned floor length coats. This colour is perfect for those of us who like to stick to the classics as a nice alternative to black or beige without being too colourful. Butter up your style this Autumn by popping some yellow in your outfit. 

#7 Refined Handbags

Handbags are going back to the classics this season and we are loving the shapes. The trend is for top-handled, sleek-looking handbags that feel ultra ladylike. The vintage vibe is strong with classic frame bags that are large enough for your essentials and classic enough to treasure forever. 

#8 Blazer + Blouse + Skirt Combination

This triple combination is a strong trend this Autumn and we are fans. The formula is a tried and true one that anyone can wear and look great. Satin blouses in cream and off-white are paired with classic blazers in beige, with a tailored midi skirt completing the vintage office wear look. Soft fabrics and hues make this look ultra feminine and give endless possibilities to mix and match all season long. 

#9 Dark Florals 

Summer may be almost over, but this Autumn the florals stick around. This season’s florals are darker, richer and bolder than their summer cousins. Featuring gorgeous realistic blooms in deep wine red, greens and purples that are romantic and a little bit gothic. We love the deep floral midi and maxi skirts that are here for the season and that pair perfectly with boots for cooler days. 

We think the designers this season had a blast while coming up with these looks. They feel fun, romantic, and easy to mix and match. We can tell already that we are going to enjoy this season. So roll on Autumn!  

11 Old-School Etiquette Rules That Still Make The World a Nicer Place

We hope that good manners will never go out of fashion. These 11 old-school etiquette rules are part of a necessary code of conduct that, we believe, makes our world a nicer place to live in. They are the types of rules our grandparents learned in their childhood. And, as the world moves swiftly from one trend to another, these elegant etiquette tips remain a universally recognised standard of behaviour. Old-school etiquette rules maintain a common courtesy that should never be lost and, we believe, they go a long way towards keeping out interactions kind. 


1. Saying ‘Excuse me’ 

When you accidentally bump into someone on the street or in the supermarket acknowledging the other person and quickly apologising for walking into them is the politest thing to do. In return, if someone knocks into you and apologises with an ‘excuse me’ it is polite to acknowledge this without a fuss. Do not be tempted to respond with anger or by accusing them of not looking where they are going. 


2. Please and Thank You.

These two tiny little phrases are essential words in your vocabulary when interacting with others. They show kindness and respect to the other person and soften what could otherwise be interpreted to be a command. 


3. Smile, often and to everyone you meet and interact with.

Some people seem to forget that this expression is free and it is better shared. Smile when you order your coffee, smile as you say hello to someone you pass in the street, smile as you open the door to the postal delivery. Smile and the whole world smiles with you – try it out and see if it is true.


4. Hold the door open for the person behind you.

It doesn’t matter who is behind you; the common courtesy is to hold the door and ensure it does not close just before they get to it. If someone does the same for you, be sure to thank them for showing the courtesy. 


5. Look at the person speaking to you.

Don’t look at your phone to see who just messaged you. This is so extraordinarily important when at the counter in a shop. There is a real person in front of you who is helping you, either to make your coffee or to help you purchase a new item. Give them the respect of looking at them, smile and interact, put that phone away until you are finished.


6. Let someone go ahead of you in line.

This is one of the sweetest random acts of kindness. We all know what it is like to be stuck in a long line at the check-out when you only want to buy one thing. It feels so fantastic when someone ahead of you suggests you go ahead of them in the queue. Do the same for others and see how good it feels to be randomly kind. 

7. Be on time

Being at a place at the time you promised is a sign of respect for the other person. It is not ok to leave someone waiting for you and it is not ok to send a message at the arranged meeting time saying you will be late. 


8. Cut the cussing.

There is no need to sprinkle swear words through our conversations. If you feel you need to swear for impact, please learn a more extensive vocabulary and find a new way to express yourself without using a commonly overused swearword as an adjective. 


9. Wait a day or two to respond to a mean or nasty email or message.

Give yourself time to cool down after receiving an unpleasant message and avoid replying in a way that would not be appropriate. Better yet, don’t respond. Often a non-response sends a far louder message to nastiness than a reply would.


10. Let people off the train, elevator, bus, or tram before trying to get on.

Give passengers room to walk out by politely standing to one side of the door.


11. Welcome a new neighbour.

A small gift of chocolates or cookies is the perfect gift to give a new neighbour when you knock on the door to introduce yourself and welcome them to the neighbourhood. Start this important neighbour relationship with kindness. 

By remembering these old-school etiquette rules and practising them daily, we are showing respect and kindness to others, which is essential in a world where we see division sown by words of contempt and disdainful actions. These rules of conduct help us keep kindness as the standard in our world. And we are all for that!

Seven Sanity-Saving Tips For Dealing With Difficult People

Dealing with difficult people is something we all hope to avoid, but unfortunately, we all must face difficult people whether in our workplace, social life or online. These experiences can be confronting, awkward and just wholly unpleasant. Therefore, we decided to put together our best sanity-saving tips for dealing with difficult people. So, instead of getting frustrated and screaming to the ceiling ‘Why is this person being so difficult?’ you can remain sane and handle the situation with class.

  1. Be The Calm One

When faced with someone being completely difficult, being the calm one allows you to maintain some control over the situation. Being angry or frustrated is likely to inflame the situation further. Breathe. Relax your shoulders and let the tension of the situation go before you respond. Be slower to react, allowing your stress levels to decrease first. By remaining calm you are refusing to let the other person trigger you. If your conflict is happening via email or texting, it is crucial to avoid replying when upset. Rise above the conflict and do not allow yourself to react emotionally.

  1. Practise Engaged Listening

People who will not listen to reason or let you have a say can be the most frustrating type of difficult people to deal with. When you are both intent on getting your point of view across, no one is being heard. Be the one who steps back first and actively listen to all they have to say. Practise engaged listening by ensuring that the other person knows you are really listening. Tilt your head slightly and nod as you listen, these actions give a strong non-verbal cue that you are indeed listening to them. Stepping back can quickly deescalate the tension, and you might actually find you can understand why they are being so difficult.

  1. Seek to Understand

Try to see the situation from the difficult person’s point of view. Ask yourself ‘what could they be trying to achieve by being so difficult?’ or ‘what are they trying to avoid?’. With a different perspective on the problem, you may be able to help them move towards their goal without all the drama.

  1. Get Assistance

If the difficult person is someone you are continually having problems with, it can help a lot to talk with others about the situation. Other people can have a completely different perspective on a situation and may offer some good advice on how to handle the situation better. The key is not to use these times to moan and complain to others about the person, but to try to keep the discussion focused on the actions and reactions triggered when you face this person.

  1. Steer Clear of Contempt

Is it possible that your reactions to the difficult person could be interpreted as disrespectful? Any interaction that has a hint of contempt will be doomed to failure. Be careful that you have not used a put-down or acted arrogantly towards them. Stay respectful, and you may find they follow your cue and change their path of difficulty.

  1. Focus on What You Can Fix

Narrow your focus onto the situation at hand and how you can work together to solve it. Take your focus off your emotional reactions to the actions or words of the difficult person, as these can blind us to simple solutions to the problem.

  1. Remove Yourself From The Drama

If you have done all you can to try to work with a difficult person, but you seem to face the same issues with every interaction, simply reduce your contact with this person as much as possible. Often people will use challenging behaviour as a way to control a situation or person when they feel out of control or insecure. Trust your instincts on this one. If you feel there is no way to amend this conflict, remove yourself. Choose your battles wisely. Remember that not every fight needs to be fought and you get to decide when to engage.

Difficult people are always going to be around and finding good strategies to deal with them is essential. Every interaction with a difficult person should be seen as a chance to learn better skills for dealing with them in the future.

 

Difficult people are the greatest teachers – Pema Chödrön

 

We’re Dreaming of a Green Christmas- How To Go Green This Festive Season

Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year to share goodwill and kindness to all. So this year we want to share some ideas for a greener way to celebrate Christmas that is kinder to our planet and all who live on it.

 

Gifts of Kindness

Every year we give and receive gifts for Christmas. Sometimes those gifts are unwanted or wasteful excess stuff that we don’t really need. This year try a gift of time or experience to those you love. Our favourite choices are movie vouchers, tickets or memberships. For those who have everything, consider donating to a charity in their name.

We suggest choosing something from the World Vision Gift Catalogue to donate to a child in need.

If you really want to give an actual wrapped gift, consider gifts that are made sustainably from renewable materials, made locally or made by artisans.

When you are buying for children, consider gifts that are battery-free, as every year discarded batteries end up in landfills and eventually into waterways.

If you do end up with excess or unwanted gifts, please donate them to a charity store. Many unwanted gifts simply gather dust in our closets for years when someone else could be using them. Give them to a charity that will ensure someone who wants them can use them.

 

Wrapped up with love

When wrapping gifts buy recyclable Christmas wrapping paper. The best and simplest is brown paper with ribbons. We love the ideas for wrapping gifts using recyclable materials over at EcoCult

 

Deck the Halls

Every year thousands of trees are used for Christmas, only to be discarded in January on bonfires. Instead, this year go for an alternative Christmas tree. There are many alternatives such as a potted tree that can be planted afterwards or a wooden tree frame that can be reused each year. Eco-Age have the best guide to eco-friendly Christmas trees including some fantastic alternative tree ideas.

 

Decorate your tree and home this year with natural decorations – pinecones, eucalyptus, holly, ivy and dried fruit. Or buy well-made decorations that will last for many years. Look out for beautiful handmade or artisanal items that you can enjoy for many years.

Consider your energy usage over the festive season by putting your Christmas lights on a timer. We love the look of homes decorated in lights, but don’t leave them on all day and night. Set a timer that will turn your lights on for a few hours once it gets dark each evening.

Decorate inside with candles that are made from beeswax, soy or vegetable wax to avoid paraffin wax that comes from petroleum.

 

Eat, Drink and Be Merry

We all love to overindulge at Christmas, but this year, consider reducing the amount of food you prepare. Not only will you do everyone’s’ waistline a favour, you will also cut down dramatically on the amount of unnecessary food waste that is thrown away every Christmas.

Remember to recycle all you can after your festivities. Bottles, plastic, paper – you know the drill.

Plan a vegan or vegetarian dish for Christmas dinner. You know it is better for you and for the planet. Check out some of the great vegan recipes online and get inspired. We love Jamie Oliver’s collection of Vegan Christmas dinner recipes that are guaranteed to inspire you to try something new this year.

 

Send E-cards

By sending all your cards digitally this year you can save paper and fuel for transport. And, bonus, you can leave the task of writing them right up to the last minute before you push send as they will be delivered instantly on time.

 

Enjoy the Season

Lastly, our best tip for a green Christmas is to just slow down and enjoy the season of goodwill. Spend time with friends and family doing things together at home. Christmas is the perfect time of year to gather with friends and family. Spend time cooking together, taking evening walks to see the Christmas lights in your neighbourhood or sitting by the fire playing a board game or watching a Christmas movie with your kids.

Instead of being caught up in the commercialisation of this season, make Christmas a reason to connect to others and share gifts of time, love and goodwill with everyone.

 

Maybe Christmas doesn’t come from a store. Maybe Christmas perhaps means a little bit more.

The Grinch

 

Everyday Should Be A World Hello Day

World Hello Day was established in 1973 as an international day of communication in response to the conflict at the time between Egypt and Israel. The aim of World Hello Day was for people to set an example to leaders of the world by saying hello to 10 new people. The point was to encourage world leaders to choose communication rather than force to end conflict. The perfectly simple premise behind World Hello Day a simple hello could spread around the world and help us come together to reduce conflict and build peace.

The official World Hello Day is November 21, but you may be forgiven for missing it, as it seems to have lost much of the momentum it had in the 70s. These days simply saying hello to 10 people doesn’t really sound like a movement that could change the world. Especially when we often interact online with 10 times that number of people daily.

However, we love the bigger idea behind World Hello Day. We love the idea that communication can reduce conflict and bring peace. This is an idea we can really get behind as we think every day we need to be reminded to use the power of communication for good.

We believe strongly in the power of communication to reduce conflict. And, we know that communication is the key to increasing understanding and kindness in a world desperately in need of more compassion, empathy and love. We strongly support the power of communication for these reasons:

Communication reduces the risk of using force in a conflict and therefore contributes to a more peaceful world.

Communication can increase compassion by building a deep awareness of and sympathy for another’s suffering.

Communication spreads kindness by being warm-hearted, considerate, humane and sympathetic.

Communication builds empathy through comprehension and sharing of another’s life, feelings and way of living.

How can we use the power of communication for good every day?

Seek first to understand. When talking with others consider carefully their point of view. How might we see the situation differently from their side?

Listen genuinely without interruption. Taking our time and really listening to the other person is an important key in reducing conflict. Listen before jumping in with your opinion, be courteous and open to hearing what others think and feel. While you may not agree on everything you should be open to letting others have their say.

Avoid escalation. Make a personal commitment to use kind communication to overcome any disagreements. Avoid escalating an argument and instead seek to find a solution by talking it out.

Treat all people with kindness. Every person deserves to be treated fairly and with kindness regardless of his or her race, gender orientation, political views or religion.

Speak up. Do not be afraid to speak out when you see injustice or discrimination. Be the voice that calls out an injustice and encourage others to do the same.

Help share the message of peace. Support local organizations that work towards fighting for equality and human rights for all. Use the power of your words to share their message to a wider audience.

Never Believe That A Few Caring People Can’t Change The World. For, Indeed, That’s All Who Ever Have. – Margaret Mead

How to Recover Gracefully from Common Social Etiquette Blunders

Social Etiquette blunders seem to be increasingly easy to commit. In our haste to get a million things done each day, it can be easy to slip up and make an embarrassing mistake. How does one recover from a social blunder gracefully and with style? We have collated five common social blunders and offer our suggestions on how to gracefully recover from any social etiquette faux pas.

 

The Group Email Blunder

It is a sick feeling when you realise your hasty reply to an email was inadvertently sent as reply-all. And, now your message or personal information has been sent to the entire mailing list of your child’s class or to your entire sports club. In this case, being meticulous in checking your recipient list before pressing send can avoid a lot of unnecessary angst. But, if the deed is done, you can consider sending a quick reply-all and apologise for the slip-up. Here is a great reply:

Subject: Apologies

My apologies – I have just sent an email that obviously wasn’t for you. My sincere apologies.

Best regards,…

 

The Name Amnesia Blunder

This social blunder sneaks up on all of us. It is that moment when you are looking directly at someone you have met many times before, but your mind is drawing a blank on his or her name. To avoid embarrassment all around you can try to avoid admitting you forgot their name. If you find you need to introduce them to someone else simply ask both people if they know each other. Then pause. Hopefully, in this pause, they will reach out to introduce themselves to each other and you are gracefully saved. Alternatively, you are just going to have to own up to having a ‘senior moment’ and have forgotten their name.

 

The Humiliating Public Fall

Tripping on a curb or slipping on a wet floor is one of the most embarrassing social blunders we can make. So, what is the best way to quickly recover from falling on your backside in front of others? With humour mixed with a little humility! Get up, brush yourself off and laugh it off as a silly mistake.

 

The equally embarrassing spillage of food or drink

Knocking over your glass of wine or catapulting your fork onto your lap are just two of a hundred ways we can drip, dribble or spill food and drink in public. And, the only way to recover gracefully is, again, with a mixture of humour and humility. Laugh at the awkward moment to lessen the tension around the table. Apologize to your host and offer to help clean up any mess made. If real damage has been done to carpet or someone else’s clothing, it is polite to offer to cover the cost of any cleaning bills.

 

The Blunder of Forgetting to Respond

You realize the day before an event that you never got around to letting the host know you if you are able to attend their event. We all know it is polite to respond promptly to a formal invitation, and prior to the RSVP date. But, if you have blundered and forgotten to do this, the best thing is to own up and call the host. Apologize for not replying on time. Let them know if you still intend to attend. If you have another important engagement you must attend instead, apologize for the late notice of your absence, thank them for their invitation and wish them a successful event.

 

Gracefully Recovering in Any Situation

1.    Gracefully recovering from any social blunder requires admitting you made a mistake. You can choose to laugh it off or take a more serious and apologetic approach to the blunder. But, don’t pretend it didn’t happen. When we ignore our mistakes we let others draw the conclusion that we don’t care, don’t know better or are trying to hide something. It is better to just own a mistake than have someone form a wrong opinion about your actions.

2.    Acknowledge anyone who may have been affected by our blunder and apologize for any harm it may have caused them. A short simple apology goes a long way.

3.    Accept and Move On. We all make blunders and mistakes at times and we all move on from them. Don’t dwell too long on a blunder once you have apologized and acted to rectify any harm.

4.    Remember to be gracious when someone else makes a social blunder. It can happen to the best of us.

 

When someone does something wrong, don’t forget all the things they have done right!

 

Our Easy Reference Guide to Common Ethical Fashion Terms

At ILNI we believe in the values of ethical fashion and all that it encompasses. However, we also know that it is easy to get lost in the tangle of words, names and terms used in this field. Today we come with help in the form of our easy reference guide to the most common words and phrases in the ethical fashion industry. We hope this simple glossary will be useful in helping you decipher the most common terms and make ethical buying decisions easier. We suggest you bookmark this page for easy future reference.

Artisan

Something made by hand, by a person. Not machine made or mass-produced. Literally made by an artist.

Biodegradable

Something that is able to break down (decompose) rapidly through the action of microorganisms and be reabsorbed into the environment.

Carbon Footprint

A measurement of the amount of greenhouse gases that are emitted directly or indirectly by our daily actions.

Carbon Neutral

A product or service that has reduced their carbon footprint to nil through the process of increased efficiency, reduced consumption and recyclable products.

Conscious consumption

An increased awareness of the impact items we buy have on the environment and on the people making them. Conscious consumption includes buying items that support local economies, have been made by fairly paid employees and that are built to last.

Conscious fashion

A term used to describe a movement to buy fashion items that match our values. Basically, that what we wear, matters. 

Cost per wear

Cost per wear is a formula that takes the total cost of an item and divides it by the estimated number of wears. It is a strong argument for buying quality over quantity.

Cruelty-free

Products that contain no animal-material and that have not been tested on animals during any phase of their development.

Eco-chic 

Eco-chic refers to products that are environmentally conscious as well as being stylish or cool.

Eco-friendly 

Something that is friendly to the earth and not harmful to the environment. Eco-friendly products do not add to air, water or land pollution.

Empowerment

The basic principle of empowerment is that each and every person is entitled to equal opportunities. Empowerment in ethical fashion can be seen in action by brands that are offering training and employment to disadvantaged people and communities. Enabling them to permanently lift themselves out of poverty and gain back independence!

Ethical

Being ethical means avoiding activities or organisations that do harm to people or the environment.

Ethical fashion / Ethically made

Ethical fashion refers to the manufacturing of clothing and accessories that maximises benefits to people and communities while minimising the impact on the environment. Ethical fashion brands often employ artisans with traditional skill sets, provide cruelty-free products, use only certified or safe factories and avoid all sweatshop labour.

Fair trade

Fair trade is a global movement for change that advocates for better working conditions and improved terms of trade for farmers and workers in developing countries. For a product to display the Fair trade Mark it must meet the social, economic and environmental standards set by the certification body Fair trade International.

Fast fashion

Fast fashion refers to the speed that the fashion industry brings new trends to market as cheaply as possible. Fast Fashion encourages a ‘throw-away’ mentality among consumers

Green Fashion

Green Fashion is another name for Eco-fashion. It describes a product that is designed to be environmentally friendly.

Green washing

Green washing describes the practice of using PR and/or marketing deceptively to make an organisation’s products, aims or policies appear more environmentally friendly.

Investment Clothing

Investment clothing refers to items of clothing that cost a little more than you would normally spend, but that you will use for many years to come.

 

Locally Made

Locally made items have been produced locally. In buying locally we can support local entrepreneurs and businesses.

Micro Fibres

Micro-fibres are micro-plastics (less than 5mm in length) that can detach from our synthetic clothes during washing. These small plastics are causing big problems for our environment and our health.

Natural Fibres 
A fibre made from a plant, animal, or mineral. Includes Cotton, Linen (made from flax), Silk, Wool, Cashmere, Hemp and Jute.

Organic

Organic ingredients and materials are grown without the use of pesticides, synthetic fertilisers, sewage sludge, genetically modified organisms, or ionising radiation.

PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals)

People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals ( PETA) is an animals rights organisation that focuses its attention on the mistreatment of animals in factory farms, in the clothing trade, in laboratories, and in the entertainment industry.

PETA-approved vegan

A brand that is PETA-approved vegan is one that voluntarily commits to using no animal materials in any of its products.

Slow fashion

Slow Fashion prioritises buying quality over quantity. It focuses on well-designed clothing and accessories that are created for longevity, encourage fair trade and fair wages, and are environmentally friendly. It is the antithesis of fast fashion.

 

Sustainable fashion

Sustainable fashion refers to clothing, shoes and accessories that are manufactured, marketed and used in the most sustainable manner possible. Produced by brands who take into account both environmental and socio-economic aspects of their production and products.

 

Traceability

Traceability refers to the ability to trace a brand’s products and their components back through each step of the supply chain, all the way to raw materials.

 

Vegan (veganism)

Veganism is a way of living that seeks to exclude, as far as is possible and practicable, all forms of exploitation of, and cruelty to, animals for food, clothing or any other purposes. Products labelled Vegan contain no animal products or by-products.

Vegan leather

Vegan Leather is an animal-friendly alternative to real leather. Favoured by those of us who love the look of leather but are committed to a lifestyle prohibiting the use of animal products.

Zero Waste

Zero waste addresses how we live in the world and the impact of our trash by aiming to reduce what we add to landfills and incinerators to zero.

We hope this list of the essential Ethical Fashion Terms is useful in making great decisions about what you buy and why you buy it.

Ethical Fashion means knowing the difference between

what we have a right to do

and

what is right to do

Our Cool and Classy Beach Etiquette Guide

As the summer heat rises our thoughts turn to sandy shores, palm trees, ocean breezes, salty air, sun-kissed skin and rolling waves. Yes, we are definitely toes in the sand kind of people and we love to spend time at the beach in summer. This year, we wanted to help keep the beach cool and classy by sharing our simple beach etiquette guide.

Cover-up on the way to the beach

The funny thing about swimwear is that it begins to look more and more like underwear the further you are from the water. If you plan to walk a distance to the beach, grab a beautiful wrap to drape yourself in while wandering towards the seaside.

Slip, slop, slap

Slip on a shirt, slop on sunscreen and slap on a hat. All good advice if you are feeling the heat and your skin is in danger of turning a little red. Avoid the dreaded red branding of sunburn on skin that has been hidden under layers of clothing all winter. Take it easy in the sun for the first few days and let your tan build slowly.

Pick a good spot and respect personal space

Even on a crowded beach, we must allow others their space. If someone has marked their spot on the beach with towels, it is best to allow some space around them when picking your spot on the sand. This becomes even more important on an almost empty beach. Keep your distance, mark your space away from others and let’s all get along.

Turn the volume down

Not everyone will share your taste in music, and most will prefer a different soundtrack for their day at the beach. So, in the name of all things civil, please keep the music low enough that you can still enjoy it, but others don’t have to talk over it. The same goes for loud conversations on a crowded beach.

Eat simple and plastic free

Picnics at the beach are great, but as we are becoming more aware of the plastic waste in our waters (#plasticfree #cleanoceans) a simple beach picnic is best. Put some fresh sandwiches and fruit in a reusable container and bring a refillable water bottle with iced water. Leave the plastic wrap, plastic straws and plastic cups at home safely away from any sea life that they could harm.

Avoid the flick

Be very careful when shaking your towel out so that the sand does not blow over your neighbour. The same consideration should be taken when walking past people in your flip-flops to avoid flicking sand on everyone you pass.

Games are best played away from crowds

It is great to toss a frisbee or play some beach cricket on a sunny day at the beach. But be aware of others and play your games away from the crowds. No one wants a ball in the head or to be trampled on while lying in the sun.

No Butts

The beach is for everyone to enjoy and the sand is not an ashtray. No one wants the warm summer breeze to be filled with second-hand smoke on a beach. If you have to smoke, move away from others or find a terrace to sit on. Do not be tempted to bury cigarette butts in the sand; those little sticks continue to leach toxic chemicals and carcinogens into the water well after you have finished smoking them.

Don’t feed the seagulls

Seagulls have a healthy diet of fish scraps and shellfish. They are natural scavengers, but their digestive system is not made to eat bread or fast food. Unfortunately, like us, they love food that is bad for them and will continue to come begging for pieces of our food. And, they will bring all their friends. Please don’t invite a gull party by feeding them your fries. After all, what goes up must come down.

Dogs on the beach are not everyone’s friends

Keep a close eye on your dog at the beach and don’t let them roam unattended. Some dogs can get overexcited by all the people and children and can annoy others. If your dog is a frequently barking breed, consider not bringing them to the beach. If you do bring your furry friend keep them close and on a leash.

Keep the romance classy

Yes, we are talking about public displays of affection PDAs. By all means, hold hands as you walk along the beach and have a little cuddle on your towel. But please please keep it G rated. The beach is a family location. Keep it classy or get a room.

Don’t bother the lifeguard

Lifeguards are on duty and their duty is to keep a close eye on the beach for people in trouble. When you approach a lifeguard, you take their attention off their role of keeping others safe. If you need directions or information, find an off-duty guard or attendant to ask. Let the on-duty guard do their job undistracted.

 

Leave only footprints

The well-known rule to take only photos and leave only footprints applies especially at the beach. Following this simple advice ensures everyone gets to enjoy a pristine beach. So before you leave the beach pick up everything you have bought with you and refill any holes you have dug in the sand. Leave the beach as you found it and hopefully everyone else will do the same.

Just Enjoy!

We wish you long happy summer beach days this year. Soak up the sun, ride the waves, breathe in the fresh sea air, feel the breeze, build a sandcastle, rest, relax, reflect and go barefoot to feel the sand between your toes!

Manners Maketh the Man or Woman – A Nostalgic Look at Silver Screen Manners

In our opinion, the stars of the Silver screen era embodied the perfect balance of elegance and social grace. The men and women of this classic Hollywood golden age were like the gods and goddesses of style and poise. Watching the interactions of the characters in a classic film makes us nostalgic for a time when men and women were composed, polite and showed respect for each other. Manners were an essential social lubricant and to forget them showed a lack of class. The characters of these movies showed us how to conduct ourselves in the social settings of the era. A high level of politeness, respect and kindness were expressed and expected in all social interactions.

We admire how the men were chivalrous, suave, gracious and debonair, while the women were poised, graceful and dignified with a high level of self-confidence. The interaction between men and women was a pleasure to watch. A gentleman would open a door for a woman. Not because she is helpless or unable, but because he wanted to show her that she is valuable and worthy of respect.

Watching classic movies makes us nostalgic for a time when manners were essential and politeness was the norm in social conduct. Today we seem to have forgotten or discarded many of the manners of that era and in the process, we seem to have forgotten that manners maketh the man or woman regardless of the era.

Silver Screen Manners we wish would be the norm again.

Opening Doors

Back in the day, men weren’t just expected to hold doors for women. They were expected to help them put their coats on, ease them out of their seats, order food for them, and pay for every meal. While it would be excessive to ask for this type of treatment today, we wouldn’t mind seeing more people hold doors open for the people behind them.

Dressing up

People would dress up for many more occasions than we do today. They would dress up to go on a plane, go to the movies, go out for dinner and even to go to the doctor. We are a little nostalgic for the act of making every outing an event by dressing for the occasion. After all, this simple act can make any outing a little more glamorous.

Sitting to talk on the phone

When someone would call a Silver screen character, they would sit and talk due to the limitation of movement caused by a phone cord. They could not walk around being distracted by other things. They certainly couldn’t talk on the phone while shopping or driving in the car. Actually, by being still in one place, they could focus their attention fully on the caller. We wish this was the norm again. Too often we can hear that the person we are talking with is busy multi-tasking and not fully paying attention. It was better when we were forced to sit and listen and stay still. While we cannot hope to bring back a phone cord, we can imagine one is there and sit in a quiet spot to really give our full attention to the caller.

Watching our words.

You never saw the stars of the silver screen swear, well certainly not in public anyway. Their vocabulary was wide enough to not need to pepper every second sentence with a profanity to emphasize a point. Onlookers would gasp if they heard a swear word spoken out loud and would have been highly embarrassed to see two people arguing in public. This golden era level of self-control is one, one cannot help but be nostalgic for.

Minding our Ps and Qs

The art of saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ seems to also be slowly dying. The common courtesy of saying thank you to the shop assistant is often forgotten in the rush to move on. We would love to see a lot more of ‘please’, ‘thank you’ and ‘excuse me’ used in everyday interactions. These little words can really make a difference in our opinion.

Quintessential Hollywood Style

There are so many examples of style, grace and poise in the classic old movies. Here are our picks for three of the best movies for quintessential Hollywood romance, style and grace.

‘Roman Holiday’ with Gregory Peck and Audrey Hepburn

Joe Bradley plays the most chivalrous reporter ever on film, deciding to be honourable and loyal instead of greedy and two-faced.  When given the chance to kiss and tell the story for glory and fame, he instead follows his heart and falls in love with a princess.

‘An Affair to Remember’ with Cary Grant and Deborah Kerr

Nickie Ferrante (Grant), a well-known playboy and painter, meets Terry McKay (Kerr) on an ocean liner. They fall in love with each other despite the fact they are both engaged to other people. They agree to reunite on top of the Empire State Building in six months’ time if they still feel the same. No instant messaging or Facebook stalking was needed in the plot of this classic romance.

‘Spellbound’ with Ingrid Bergman and Gregory Peck.

The ravishing Ingrid Bergman plays Dr. Constance Petersen, a disciplined psychiatrist whose world is thrown in a spin when she takes an interest in her institution’s new chief of staff, Dr. Anthony Edwardes (Gregory Peck). As it turns out, the doctor may not be who he says he is and so begins a whirlwind of tangled identities, psychoanalysis combined with a high risk of falling in love.

Be Inspired

Why not take some time this weekend and revisit some of the classic movies. We hope you too might begin to feel a little nostalgic for a time when style and charm went hand in hand with respect and good manners. And, that you might also be inspired to revive some of these forgotten social interactions. Afterall, who wouldn’t want to enjoy more of that classic Hollywood grace and kindness in their social lives.

“It’s that wonderful old-fashioned idea that others come first and you come second. This was the whole ethic by which I was brought up. Others matter more than you do, so don’t fuss, dear; get on with it.” Audrey Hepburn

 

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Do’s and Don’ts on Valentine’s Day – Our Guide to Modern Valentine’s Day Etiquette

Valentine’s Day is one of those days you either love or hate. A potent mixture of commercialism and romance that can make some people feel great and leave others feeling awkward or left out. Yet, if we all can embrace some good old-fashioned fun and kindness, this day can be a special day for spreading a little thoughtfulness and appreciation. Here are our do’s and don’ts for a modern Valentine’s Day.

Do’s

 

Be Generous

Use the day to spread kindness especially with those you spend most of your days with, your co-workers. All co-workers love sweets and chocolates so bring in enough for everyone and be a Valentine’s Day superstar. Make it a day of good clean fun that makes everyone feel good and does not embarrass or make anyone feel awkward.

Get some international inspiration

In Japan Valentine’s Day is the day women buy chocolate for every man in their life, their fathers, brothers, co-workers, friends, boyfriends and bosses. They even have different types of chocolate for the different relationships. And don’t worry if this seems one-sided, one month later on White Day, all the men buy white chocolate for all the women in their lives! What a great way to spread appreciation and chocolate!

Be A Secret Admirer

Denmark and Norway have a charming custom on Valentines Day. Women receive funny anonymous rhyming poems from secret admirers. The poem contains a small clue to the writer’s identity for the women to guess who it is from.

Make it about friends

Finland and Estonia have embraced Valentine’s Day as Friend’s Day and celebrate all friendships on this day. This is a great idea for ensuring everyone is included in the day. So why not plan a group night out with all your friends.

 

Think of those who have lost someone

Valentine’s day can be a sad and lonely day for those who have lost a loved one. A small note or phone call can make someone’s day and is especially nice on Valentine’s Day.

Don’ts

 

Boast

Don’t make anyone feel awkward. If you do receive a bunch of flowers or gift at work, keep it discrete. Yes, display on your desk, but don’t parade it around the office.

PDA at work

And if you are involved with someone at work, Valentine’s Day is not a free day for over the top PDA. Keep it professional and everyone will thank you.

Declare Undying Love

Despite what we may have seen in movies, Valentine’s Day is not the day to declare your undying love for some unsuspecting soul. Play it cool with an anonymous card, a single flower on a desk, or a small box of chocolates. Please leave the balloons, large bouquets of flowers and other grand gestures for when you are a couple.

Have a First Date

Valentine’s Day is not the day for a first date. Not even a coffee date. It is too hyped and places too much pressure on a first meeting.

And finally, don’t forget Valentine’s Day is only one day of the year. Sharing kindness and appreciation should be something we practice every day of the year. Valentine’s day is just an excuse to indulge in a little romantic fun and extra chocolate, so enjoy it!

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